Take one grateful at a time...

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"Take a deep breath," we tell loved ones when they need to ground or calm, when overwhelm has set in. "Take one day, or even one moment, at a time," we tell them when they are experiencing great challenge or need to find a way to get up and face the day. Even with food, the truth is that digestion is optimized when we take smaller bites and chew more. The theme here is that slowing down helps us manage moments when too much seems to be coming at us. It's the same way with gratitude. People often ask me how anyone can possibly be grateful in a time of challenge, a time when the onslaught of life's difficulties can seem to be far greater than what we are able or willing to face. Somehow we don't hold the same principle of one at a time with this, we think gratitude for life has to come to us right away. The truth is that in the same way, you "take it one morsel of gratitude at a time." Go slow and steady.

Let's break it down...(the metaphor of small steps holds even here...)

You are in the. midst of great challenge or loss. 

What happens? You feel trapped. You feel like you are sinking.

You hear that gratitude can help you have a different outlook so you want to try but what could you feel grateful for?

Maybe you can start with...

"I am grateful that I am mustering the courage to try and even find something to be grateful for, this reminds me of my resilience."

The next day...(or next or next...be gentle with yourself)...

"I am grateful I can wake up again and meet a new day, this reminds me of my strength."

Until you see something to be grateful for, whether it's a flower blooming or a moment of more ease...

"I am grateful to be able to see something like this. It reminds me of my connection to the world around me."

And another grateful...

"I am grateful that life is showing me that beauty lies next to the challenge. This reminds me that even in the midst of pain, I can nurture myself."

And yet another...

"I am grateful my patience with life has shown me how to be patient with myself. I am grateful for my self-compassion." 
 

And so on and so on...No time limit to this process. No judgment or expectation. The fact that you are even asking how to find something to be grateful for is a gift. If you remember in my TEDx talk, I said "Thank you" countless times to my son before I believed it. But the act of saying it worked some magic. 

Your magic awaits you, one grateful nugget at a time...

Live well,

Tanmeet

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