Don't miss this one simple step to elevate your gratitude practice

On this Thankful Thursday, our blog goodness will coincide with Happiness Nugget #6. And what better nugget to do today than Gratitude? One of my fav happiness gems ever as you know!

What if you’ve been trying to practice gratitude and it’s not quite giving you the juicy goodness you hoped for? You’re writing in your journal, you’re looking for your “grate-fuls” every day but you want more? Today’s for YOU.

What if you’re doing it right but you could do it even better? Who wouldn’t want that right?

Well, let me tell you about a study they did at USC that showed why the real prize is in the DETAILS. Yep, the details.

Here’s how it went down…

They took 3 groups for 10 weeks and had them do 3 different things each night:

Group 1: wrote down 5 things they were grateful for

Group 2: picked one thing they were grateful for and wrote 5 sentences about why they were grateful for that one thing

Group 3: wrote ways they were better off than someone else

And what happened?

Group 2 who got more specific, used more details…felt happier, more alert and less lethargic than the other 2 groups.

So, let’s try it, right here, you and me.

Let’s say, I come home and write in my journal that I’m grateful for my husband, my kids, my job, my parents and my friends. That’s nice and it helps me for sure.

But let’s check out the difference when I take one of them and get more nitty gritty.

I’ll pick my husband…

  1. I’m grateful he always tries to make me laugh every day no matter what.

  2. I’m grateful he hugs me so much.

  3. I’m grateful he is so kind and thoughtful to my parents and siblings.

  4. I’m grateful he loves being a dad so much that he genuinely loves caring for our kids, spending time with them and would fight tooth and nail for them to feel valued in this world.

  5. I’m grateful he never, ever makes me feel guilty for pursuing my dreams. In fact, he is my number one fan, always, no matter what.

Alright, now, I’m going to be real with you. I was tearing up writing that and I’ve got those juicy good warm fuzzies running all through my body.

Now, that really worked!

So, from now on, when you practice gratitude, make sure you’re getting Detailed and Specific.

Supercharge your practice by getting real with yourself.

You’ll feel better, be more focused and will soar through your day.

Live well,

Tanmeet

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4 simple steps to manage that frustrating family member…just in time for the holidays

Do you…?

-stay up at night stressing out about someone in your family?

-worry about how you will solve the dysfunction before the next holiday gathering?

-find yourself thinking constantly about how you were wronged, yet again, by them?

Then this week’s post is for you.

This week’s post will show you how I ended this stress in four simple steps.

Read on and change how you look at any family relationship that is keeping you up at night.

And better yet, share it with your family or at least two friends you love so they can change their life too!

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Put the Thanks Back in Thanksgiving!

I want to take a moment to express my gratitude to all of you for reading, sharing and being on this journey of Gratitude with me.

In return, I want to reprise my favorite three posts to transform your day today with family and friends.

I promise, you will have a more meaningful holiday if you incorporate just one of these rituals or frameworks.

Have a beautiful holiday and I hope you feast on love and gratitude as well!

The posts that will change your entire holiday:

  1. A way to make the entire day from cooking to eating more sacred:

How Just One Meal Can Make You Grateful For A Lifetime

2. Ways to maximize the act of Gratitude this Thanksgiving (including the Gratitude Jar

exercise which will be the best thing you do today with your family:

Don’t Waste Your Thanksgiving Dinner

3. Especially if it’s been a hard year, the ONE question that can transform the way you

see your past challenges with a Gratitude lens:

Supercharge your Gratitude Practice With This One Simple Question

Live well,

Tanmeet

P.S. Share these tools with someone you love today to show how grateful you are for their presence in your life!

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Listening to this for 15 minutes will transform your Thanksgiving holiday

Last year, Bill Radke interviewed me on our local NPR station about Gratitude practice for the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday. But here’s the catch. We talked about being thankful for what we DON’T want in our lives. Yep, what we don’t want.

So, I’m doing a throwback Thursday to this #thankful Thursday last year and giving you a gift of a new perspective for this holiday season.

Start in at the 33:00 mark and enjoy!

Listen here for the show!

Live well,
Tanmeet

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Why I am grateful today for rock bottom

These are the faces of hope. No matter what side of party or political lines you stand on, these are faces of a new frontier, one that says that America will move towards a representation that represents what America really consists of.

The FIRST Indigenous Congresswomen ever! Ever…think about that! After over two centuries of elected officials to Congress, these are the first Indigenous women to be there to speak up for our communities.

The FIRST Muslim Women in Congress and one in a hijab! Yes!

The FIRST African American Women sent to Congress EVER by Connecticut and Massachusetts.

The Youngest woman ever at the age of 29!

And on and on, a long line of hope.

So, today I give gratitude to the universe because sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom, it takes desperate fear for big change to happen. No matter what the outcome is in the next two years, no matter what political events take place, there is change. There is engagement.

This week, I am using the image of my favorite flower often, that of a lotus. A flower, so radiant in its beauty, but one that unbelievably rises from the mud. Such beauty from such challenge. That is how I liken this feeling today.

I heard just this week that a writer long ago described Hope in parallel to a long dirt path in the countryside. At first there is nothing. But then enough people walk back and forth and…a path appears. And so as these new change leaders walk back and forth in front of me, as they walk the path, my hope appears.

May we all, regardless of where our political beliefs sit, be able to revel in the hope that this new wave of women leaders bring as they walk before us…

Live well,
Tanmeet

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These two simple steps will transform even your biggest challenge into JOY

Halloween seemed doomed last year. It was the first time that my middle son couldn’t walk at all. He has DMD, a degenerative neuromuscular condition, and had been declining quickly over the last couple of years. And this was it, the Halloween we had dreaded, the one where he couldn’t even stand at a door to get candy even if we carried him up the stairs to the house. He was distraught, “How will Halloween work for me Mama?” I was not sure, that was the truth. I agreed with him. This was so very sad. It was always a much anticipated holiday for my family and now, it seemed to be something to dread.

Until…we moved into the world of what was POSSIBLE instead of what seemed impossible.

Two simple steps moved us into a different world, one where we saw things with new eyes and let me tell you, this was a world you would rather live in.

I am guessing if you are human like me, you have felt the weight of a moment when life seemed to be giving you too much to manage. There isn’t a way to make this work, we often think. But these two simple steps can be the start to a new way to live through those challenges. So let’s dive in!

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A poem for all the parents out there...

Today is my youngest child’s birthday and I am feeling grateful and nostalgic all at the same time. I pull out poetry often when my heart needs words to match its stirring emotions. And this one by David Whyte is for all of us who love our child, knowing that s/he is loved and parented by bigger forces than just ours. To all of those ancestral and future energies, I give gratitude for your walking with myself and my daughter on this path. I hope this poem touches you today as deeply as it does me.

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Does your relationship need first aid? Then, you need this one simple thing right now.

When you think of giving an important relationship like your marriage a little CPR, you may think of a weekend away or more date nights or even some couples counseling! And nothin’ wrong with any of these! But they all take time and a considerable amount of money, not to mention the task of figuring out who will care for your children while you two are gone.

These are all things worth making the investment in but what if I told you there was a simple thing you could do that costs about 5 bucks and only takes a minute of your time each day?  And that this one thing could give you and your spouse a little playful, tender resuscitation when it’s possible life has become all about the “to-do’s” and business of getting your family what they need? Wouldn’t you take a chance on it? Take it from me, it’s worth your time and attention because if you two aren’t doing well, then you aren’t doing well and moreover, your family doesn’t do well. And it’s just plain depressing to not be feeling the good juicy vibes for someone you love, right?

So take a peek and transform your day (you can thank me later!)

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Feeling down? This one thing (Bonus: it takes JUST 15 minutes) is the game changer you need!

If I told you there was one thing you could do every week that would make you happier, wouldn't you think it was worth giving it a try? It will take about 15 minutes of your time, I would explain. A small investment for a big payoff, if you ask me. I was reminded of this exercise this week when someone did it for me and I remembered how good it felt to be on the both the doing and the receiving end. I also remembered that there were studies to back it up and so went to the effort to research it again and am bringing it to you here this week. So let's get ready to transform your week ahead and take charge of your own well-being!

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5 Good Things You Need To See This Week, Trust Me...

Let’s face it, the world can feel pretty dark these days. No matter what side of the political arena you stand, there is enough drama and pain to go around. I have done major news fasts for most of this year but somehow in the last month, I have been feasting again and whoa, the news can be a doozie these days! So, if you are like me, and feeling down about it regularly, you may be trying to pick yourself up. I sure am. And when I do that, I use gratitude in BIG doses and I also just need to flood my senses with good and fun things. So this week, as a break from heaviness of any kind, I am sharing five things that have made me smile and lightened my load.

I hope they serve you as well as a way to celebrate the good in the world. And even more importantly all of them offered a way to amplify their awesomeness this week by inspiring me to follow in their footsteps. So here we go…

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DO NOT let Fall pass by without doing this

Let’s start this with a HUGE disclosure, Fall is my LEAST favorite season. Yep, you heard it. Least favorite. I seem to be the odd person out on this one. All around me people are saying how they are enjoying the cooler days, the colors, the coziness of fall. Nope, not me. I mourn the end of summer every year and resist fall. I am convinced the reason is grounded in Ayurveda, East Indian Traditional Medicine, which I have studied and practice. (If you are interested in learning how to care for yourself as the seasons change, let me know in the comments below because Ayurveda is my answer to all transitions going more smoothly!) Anyway, from an Ayurvedic perspective, the exact qualities of fall increase my most predominant dosha (or body type) and cause some nervous energy, even anxiety, and feeling of not being grounded when you are out of balance. And that is EXACTLY what happens to me in Fall if I am not mindful and caring for myself.

So, you may wonder then how and why I would say we should embrace Fall? Well, for one, if you have read any of my blogs or watched my TED talk, you know that I feel that resistance is the root of all suffering. So even though I want to so badly resist Fall, I come around within a few days and completely embrace it so that I don’t have to suffer and so that I can be grateful for what is, not for what I wish were here.

And when I do that and STOP and look around, I see something amazing. I see life lessons in nature around me as She transitions to this next season. When I stop, look and PAY ATTENTION, I see that Fall can teach me so much about life and what I need right now to cultivate JOY.

So, let’s break it down. Because I know you want Joy, right? I am going to show you why Fall is such a Master Teacher and then a short exercise I do as much as possible this season to get all its juicy goodness flowing through me!

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