Why I am grateful today for rock bottom

These are the faces of hope. No matter what side of party or political lines you stand on, these are faces of a new frontier, one that says that America will move towards a representation that represents what America really consists of.

The FIRST Indigenous Congresswomen ever! Ever…think about that! After over two centuries of elected officials to Congress, these are the first Indigenous women to be there to speak up for our communities.

The FIRST Muslim Women in Congress and one in a hijab! Yes!

The FIRST African American Women sent to Congress EVER by Connecticut and Massachusetts.

The Youngest woman ever at the age of 29!

And on and on, a long line of hope.

So, today I give gratitude to the universe because sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom, it takes desperate fear for big change to happen. No matter what the outcome is in the next two years, no matter what political events take place, there is change. There is engagement.

This week, I am using the image of my favorite flower often, that of a lotus. A flower, so radiant in its beauty, but one that unbelievably rises from the mud. Such beauty from such challenge. That is how I liken this feeling today.

I heard just this week that a writer long ago described Hope in parallel to a long dirt path in the countryside. At first there is nothing. But then enough people walk back and forth and…a path appears. And so as these new change leaders walk back and forth in front of me, as they walk the path, my hope appears.

May we all, regardless of where our political beliefs sit, be able to revel in the hope that this new wave of women leaders bring as they walk before us…

Live well,

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These two simple steps will transform even your biggest challenge into JOY

Halloween seemed doomed last year. It was the first time that my middle son couldn’t walk at all. He has DMD, a degenerative neuromuscular condition, and had been declining quickly over the last couple of years. And this was it, the Halloween we had dreaded, the one where he couldn’t even stand at a door to get candy even if we carried him up the stairs to the house. He was distraught, “How will Halloween work for me Mama?” I was not sure, that was the truth. I agreed with him. This was so very sad. It was always a much anticipated holiday for my family and now, it seemed to be something to dread.

Until…we moved into the world of what was POSSIBLE instead of what seemed impossible.

Two simple steps moved us into a different world, one where we saw things with new eyes and let me tell you, this was a world you would rather live in.

I am guessing if you are human like me, you have felt the weight of a moment when life seemed to be giving you too much to manage. There isn’t a way to make this work, we often think. But these two simple steps can be the start to a new way to live through those challenges. So let’s dive in!

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A poem for all the parents out there...

Today is my youngest child’s birthday and I am feeling grateful and nostalgic all at the same time. I pull out poetry often when my heart needs words to match its stirring emotions. And this one by David Whyte is for all of us who love our child, knowing that s/he is loved and parented by bigger forces than just ours. To all of those ancestral and future energies, I give gratitude for your walking with myself and my daughter on this path. I hope this poem touches you today as deeply as it does me.

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Does your relationship need first aid? Then, you need this one simple thing right now.

When you think of giving an important relationship like your marriage a little CPR, you may think of a weekend away or more date nights or even some couples counseling! And nothin’ wrong with any of these! But they all take time and a considerable amount of money, not to mention the task of figuring out who will care for your children while you two are gone.

These are all things worth making the investment in but what if I told you there was a simple thing you could do that costs about 5 bucks and only takes a minute of your time each day?  And that this one thing could give you and your spouse a little playful, tender resuscitation when it’s possible life has become all about the “to-do’s” and business of getting your family what they need? Wouldn’t you take a chance on it? Take it from me, it’s worth your time and attention because if you two aren’t doing well, then you aren’t doing well and moreover, your family doesn’t do well. And it’s just plain depressing to not be feeling the good juicy vibes for someone you love, right?

So take a peek and transform your day (you can thank me later!)

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Feeling down? This one thing (Bonus: it takes JUST 15 minutes) is the game changer you need!

If I told you there was one thing you could do every week that would make you happier, wouldn't you think it was worth giving it a try? It will take about 15 minutes of your time, I would explain. A small investment for a big payoff, if you ask me. I was reminded of this exercise this week when someone did it for me and I remembered how good it felt to be on the both the doing and the receiving end. I also remembered that there were studies to back it up and so went to the effort to research it again and am bringing it to you here this week. So let's get ready to transform your week ahead and take charge of your own well-being!

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5 Good Things You Need To See This Week, Trust Me...

Let’s face it, the world can feel pretty dark these days. No matter what side of the political arena you stand, there is enough drama and pain to go around. I have done major news fasts for most of this year but somehow in the last month, I have been feasting again and whoa, the news can be a doozie these days! So, if you are like me, and feeling down about it regularly, you may be trying to pick yourself up. I sure am. And when I do that, I use gratitude in BIG doses and I also just need to flood my senses with good and fun things. So this week, as a break from heaviness of any kind, I am sharing five things that have made me smile and lightened my load.

I hope they serve you as well as a way to celebrate the good in the world. And even more importantly all of them offered a way to amplify their awesomeness this week by inspiring me to follow in their footsteps. So here we go…

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DO NOT let Fall pass by without doing this

Let’s start this with a HUGE disclosure, Fall is my LEAST favorite season. Yep, you heard it. Least favorite. I seem to be the odd person out on this one. All around me people are saying how they are enjoying the cooler days, the colors, the coziness of fall. Nope, not me. I mourn the end of summer every year and resist fall. I am convinced the reason is grounded in Ayurveda, East Indian Traditional Medicine, which I have studied and practice. (If you are interested in learning how to care for yourself as the seasons change, let me know in the comments below because Ayurveda is my answer to all transitions going more smoothly!) Anyway, from an Ayurvedic perspective, the exact qualities of fall increase my most predominant dosha (or body type) and cause some nervous energy, even anxiety, and feeling of not being grounded when you are out of balance. And that is EXACTLY what happens to me in Fall if I am not mindful and caring for myself.

So, you may wonder then how and why I would say we should embrace Fall? Well, for one, if you have read any of my blogs or watched my TED talk, you know that I feel that resistance is the root of all suffering. So even though I want to so badly resist Fall, I come around within a few days and completely embrace it so that I don’t have to suffer and so that I can be grateful for what is, not for what I wish were here.

And when I do that and STOP and look around, I see something amazing. I see life lessons in nature around me as She transitions to this next season. When I stop, look and PAY ATTENTION, I see that Fall can teach me so much about life and what I need right now to cultivate JOY.

So, let’s break it down. Because I know you want Joy, right? I am going to show you why Fall is such a Master Teacher and then a short exercise I do as much as possible this season to get all its juicy goodness flowing through me!

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Why I'm Grateful for Serena Williams...But Even More Grateful For Her Haters

I happen to be a huge tennis fan but even if you aren’t one, chances are you still heard about the Women’s Finals between Serena Williams and Naomi Osaka this past weekend. The controversy, the analysis, the sides taken. I am not going to analyze the whole thing here but I do have real gratitude for it. And the clincher is that I have gratitude for both sides of the controversy even though I have a clear opinion on which side of that line I stand.

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The One Thing Every Parent Needs on the First Days of School, And It's Not on the School Supply List

School has started. And it is always exciting but also mixed with other emotions, not always easy ones. So this year, I re-read my blog post from last year to prepare. This tool, this tug, has saved me every time and yesterday, the first day of this school year, was no exception. So, today, I am doing a throw-back post to bring you the tool as well. I hope it serves you well...

Yesterday was the first day of school. And it was a doozie. Such a mixed bag of emotions for me and some very intense. It was a day when I practiced what I call my Tug of Gratitude exercise. It is an exercise that will save you every time. For those challenging days, whether full of joy, grief or nostalgia. Fear, anxiety or excitement. It will keep you grounded and help you stay in the present moment which is the key to any challenge. Let me set the stage so you can see how I used it and how it can come in handy for you next time you need it. 

Yesterday was my oldest son's first day of high school. An emotional day for many parents for sure. Your first born entering high school, really taking flight, only four more years in the home, it all rushes to you. Nervousness for him socially, for the choices he will be faced with, the increased academic pressures, all of it. 

It was my middle son's first day of middle school. So the day so far had two new schools, two new transitions and big milestones. To add to it, my middle son knows no one in this middle school because he changed neighborhoods this year. He was a rock star of sorts at his elementary school and now knows no one at all. That could be the situation for many kids but his added challenge is that he is in a wheelchair, has cognitive delay as well and is basically very different to the kids around him. (and of course, I am scared because middle school kids don't tend to be as forgiving and welcoming as elementary kids) To add to all that, the school district characteristically dragged their feet all summer so he does not have an instructional aide in place which is the key to his success. And on top of all of that, he spent his first stint in the ICU last month for a harrowing few days and has been teetering between solid health and otherwise since then. For the last couple of days, he has had some strange symptoms and we just weren't sure what kind of state he would be in for his first day. 

It was my youngest's first day in fourth grade in a school she knows and loves so this was my "easiest" first day child yesterday. I would love to say she is my "baby" but she has flown from the nest faster than the other two. She is her own person and fiercely independent. When she got to school, she learned she wasn't with the friends she had been expecting to be with all summer and I could tell she was not sure how to emotionally express that disappointment balanced with her utter excitement to get to school. 

And to add to all of it, the night before was a circus. All three kids had a bad night's sleep, played musical beds and I was up from 3-5 with my middle son. So this morning was pure chaos!

When you are in the thick of all of that, the adrenaline to get them all ready and where they need to go, to three different schools, keeps you focused on the task at hand. I felt things in my body like my heart racing and some intermittent tightness in my chest. And I finally cried like crazy. All of my emotions came to a head and they were a tangled mess. I wasn't even sure what I felt. 

But this is what I did during the whole morning. This is the one thing that saved me and might save you. And you can't buy it where you get your school supplies...Some might call it a tug of war but I think it is more a tug of love because gratitude can really be your best friend. Different emotions pulled on me for each child, many very challenging and I tugged back with gratitude, every time

For my oldest:

I felt rushes of pride for sure, so proud of all he is and yet to become. But what I also felt was rushes of nostalgia as I realized he was really growing up and becoming his own young man. Not needing me as much as he used to. I felt rushes of fear as my own high school experience which was not very positive tugged at my heart, hoping his experience would be different. Fear, anxiety, sadness, letting go all tangled up in my heart. Tugging tightly on my heart.

And with every painful tug, I tugged back with:
"I am grateful that he has the privilege to go to school. I am grateful that he is finding himself as a young man. I am grateful because all of my sadness means that I love so deeply." 

For my middle son:

I felt so so much fear that the kids will tease him or worse yet bully him. I felt so much fear that he will have an accident at school and the kids will feel that he is even more different than them. I felt so much nervousness that we will not find an instructional aide who can support him well to learn as much as he can. I felt so much anxiety around this new school, new principal and teachers who yet don't know him and might feel that he is a burden in their classroom. I felt sadness that he couldn't just walk into school like the other kids. I felt sadness that something so simple as school had to be so painful for me. And on and on.

And with every painful tug, I tugged back with:
"I am grateful that he has a school that can welcome him and hopefully celebrate his differences. I am grateful that he teaches me (and others) every day the power of love and tolerance. And I am grateful because my fear means that I can learn to trust more deeply."

For my youngest:

I felt mostly elation that she is getting back to school because she loves it so much. But I did also feel a tug of sadness as she refused to take a picture by her classroom sign, her fierce independence and desire to be "grown up" coming through. I felt sadness for her and her two best friends who were crying that she was not in her classroom. And I felt nostalgia that my youngest baby is not a baby anymore.

And with every painful tug, I tugged back with: 
"I am grateful that she loves school so much. I am grateful that her separation from her friends might open other friendships for her. And I am grateful because my sadness about her getting older teaches me to celebrate the milestones of life." 

Every time you move yourself to gratitude, whatever challenging emotions you are feeling shift right there and then in the moment. 

It is impossible to feel all of that jumbled up stuff while also feeling gratitude for them. Once you move to gratitude, you see the emotions for what they are, just emotions. They are normal, beautiful and sometimes so painful. But that's all they are. And when you feel grateful for all of them, even the really hard ones, they become more than just emotions. They become lessons. 

Gratitude is a constant teacher. It brings out the beauty and the teaching in all we experience. 

If you let it. 

When you feel an emotion tug on you, tug back with gratitude. 

Live well,


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Practice Gratitude Like Your Life Depends On It...Because It Does

This week, I was struck by a powerful statement in our Facebook Gratitude Community (By the way, if you haven't joined our community, it may be time to take a look!) We had a member share about a recent diagnosis of pancreatic cancer, no small discovery. And then she expressed stunning gratitude for so much including her life as it is. This, my friends, is true open-hearted living. Members expressed their appreciation for her sharing and rightfully so, for her courage. And one said it was a reminder for her that we always have time for gratitude and then she said something that resonated for me deeply. She stated her intention to re-prioritize her practice,"...not tomorrow, but today." 

Go ahead and read that last part twice. Really let it sink in. 



Gratitude isn't something we only look BACK on our lives with. 
Gratitude is a way we see things every darn day. 

Gratitude is the way FORWARD.

What you have in front of you, right now, no matter what it is, is your one, beautiful life. 

Resisting it, fighting it, wanting it to be different, doesn't bring joy. 

Riding the flow of your beautiful life brings ease.

Loving whatever comes to you brings joy.

Even if you want to or can change your life, you CANNOT do it with resistance. First, look at your day, find all the beauty, especially the beauty hiding in all the crevices of darkness. Look at all of it. Say thank you for it. 

Not only will you notice beauty that went hidden before. You will also realize the ugly parts held gems of light you could not see.

Start today.

Not tomorrow, but today.

Start small. Start big. But just start. 

Start with writing down your gratitude every night. Or every morning. 

Start by sharing that with a friend or loved one.

Start by joining our community for support and encouragement.

Start by sitting in your challenges, taking. deep breath, and saying Thank you to this life for all it has and will teach you.

Start Today, not tomorrow.

The absolute best thing about this community for me is the teaching I receive every day. It serves as a gentle but firm reminder that we all need this. And we can all do this. To those two women, I say Thank You. For showing up. For living your one life so beautifully. And for being my teachers.

How will you honor this day with gratitude? 

​​​​​​​Live well,

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If you love to travel AND you love food, this is for you

I am one of those people who plans entire trips, not just single trips but year long journeys, around food. Street food, my favorite noodles, food I have never tasted, you name it. I can spend an entire travel day around finding a particular street stall or hailed food destination and skip a museum any time. So, when I started doing this while I travel, everything went up a notch. 


Why not learn how to make your favorite foods of a region and savor your travel experience at home in your own kitchen? It was a tremendous start to a new kind of gratitude for travel. But last week, I came back from a trip that was unusually NOT centered around food but that confirmed for me once and for all, cooking classes are the best way to experience a country.

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