There is no dream too small to believe in. Do you have what it takes to believe in yours?
By definition, a dream is a wish, a belief that hasn’t happened yet, right? You want it to come to life…
So why, oh why, do we think we have the right to squash dreams so quickly? Before they even have a chance to fly?
Notice how soon you say something to yourself like “That’s so silly” or “I don’t even know why I think that can happen” when you think about your own dreams.
Or as harsh, how soon your trusted family or friend says the same to you when you trust them with your dream? Maybe it’s an idea for a business or an artistic creation? And the answer is “If it was a good idea, someone would have done it already.” Or maybe it’s a dream of what you want to become and you hear “Work on something more realistic.”
Let’s break down the life of a dream so you understand this.
Dreams are not made in the mind, they are conceived in our hearts. They are sacred whispers of what we hope can happen in our lives.
They travel to our minds where these whispers become words and thoughts. We spend our days imagining our lives with these dreams in place.
And then if we are brave enough, they travel to our mouths where they get packaged into words so that we can put them out into the universe. That’s the big day, when they are fully born-when we announce them to the world and share our most cherished thoughts.
And just as on any birth day, celebrations and congratulations are in order. You have shared your dream with the world.
And now the world’s job is to trust your dream. But you need to trust it first.
ANYTHING can happen, why should your dreams be any different?
I once heard an interview with Sarah Blakely, the SPANX CEO and first female billionaire in this country, who when sharing the story of her dream, said that she shared it with no one, not her mother, no one. Because they would have squashed it and she wanted to work on it until it became a reality. I think she was brave too. Because she trusted herself enough to hold on to that dream and not squash it herself. She practiced the challenging task of believing in herself first. And her lesson is two-fold. What she is saying is unless you can fully believe it, don’t announce it into the world where it can get decimated before you have a chance to fully live with it.
Dreams bring joy. There is no need to squash or reject them-subtly or overtly-before they even have a chance to live, breathe and run free.
How many times do you squash your own dream or someone else’s by dismissing it, by downplaying its importance right away? Often it’s a subtle dismissal or denial but even the most subtle rejection rings loudly in the recesses of our hearts.
Think about it. If you don’t let a dream breathe and get bigger, how will you? Dreams are just the whispers of our heart and when we bring them out into the universe into words, they are sacred whispers now shared with others.
Think about when you hear a child tell you their dreams and see their eyes light up. No matter how supposedly nonsensical that dream is, listen with as bright eyes and an open heart. They are trusting you with their most joyous whispers.
I thought this week I could give an example of a recent dream realized for my youngest child as an example. Her dream was to see the Eiffel Tower in Paris. For whatever reason, she has been talking and dreaming of it for so so long.
Now before I tell you more about the coming to life of this dream, it’s important to play out how this could have gone.
My daughter could have told me her dream was to see the Eiffel Tower and I could have said:
”Why is that such a big deal to you?”
“I’ve seen it, it’s not really as great as you think.”
You could imagine how in many scenarios, this could have been the gut response. Not out of mal-intent but just a reflexive response. But notice how this is much more than just a conversation with a young girl. It’s a holding of her dreams.
So what if I don’t think it’s such a big deal? So what If I thought it was overrated when I saw it myself?
This was HER dream and after voicing it to me, my job was to hold it in sacred space. She trusted me with it. She blew it in a whisper out of her heart and into the world and my job was to honor that. For many years, I just listened to her dream, not knowing where it was born but knowing it lived strongly within her.
So this summer, my daughter got her dream. Our family took a long held dream trip to Tanzania this summer (more on that dream realized in another blog!) and on the way we made a stop in Paris.
And our ONLY goal in Paris as far as sights were concerned (because we always have food goals!) was seeing the Eiffel Tower. And realizing her dream.
And she was SO happy. It was even greater than she had imagined.
And you want to know something even more amazing? Because I held her dream as sacred, my experience seeing the Eiffel Tower both in the day and night was MAGNIFICENT! I felt like I had never seen any manmade structure so beautiful, so enchanting, so magical. I told my husband I had not remembered it as such but I think the difference this time was I was holding it as a sacred destination.
Letting her dream live strong allowed me to also have joy in the experience.
Don’t squash your dreams. Don’t bury your whispers. Let them breathe, live and grow.
And join me Friday, tomorrow, on our Facebook live at 9 AM PST to go into this more. Dreams are crucial pathways to joy. And the spoiler is: It’s not always about the destination.
Live (and dream) well,